Why do men stay?

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Why Do Men Stay In Abusive And Violent Relationships? Men stay in abusive and violent relationships for many different reasons.  The following is a brief list of the primary reasons. Protecting Their Children.  Abused men are afraid to leave their children alone with their abusive partner.  There is also that fear that if they leave they will never be allowed to see their children again.  The man is afraid his partner will tell his children he is a bad person or that he doesn't love them. Assuming Blame (Guilt Prone).   Many abused men believe it is their fault or feel they deserve the treatment they receive. They assume blame for the events.  They feel responsible and have an unrealistic belief that they can and should do something that will make things better. Dependency (or Fear of Independence).   The abused man is mentally, emotionally or financially dependent on their partner.  The idea of leaving the relationship creates significant feelings of depression or anxiety.                   Signs and Symptoms of Victims obvious physical injuries signs of depression and suicidal ideation  history of poor health or medical problems       expresses confusion, indecisiveness, or anxiety   if there is a history of domestic violence in the victim's family of origin    has a lack of control over his or her own finances or frequently seeks financial help